"Not Good Enough" - Shift Our Mindset - TSMP 02
Have you ever say to yourself "I'm not good enough"? In today's show, I will tell you my story behind this unhelpful self-talk and how I changed this unhealthy mindset.
2017-2018 were the darkest years of my life, I buried my sanity under this heavily tormenting low self-esteem issues. Doesn't matter how much people around me give me compliments, I seem to only see the flaws of myself. In our professional field, some of us are scared at admitting that we are human and mistakes are inevitable in learning challenging music.
There is a famous saying by Tim Hiller, a former football quarterback, "Don't compare your beginning to someone else's middle" I tend to forget the second half of the quote. that is "don't compare your middle to someone else's end." As high-achievers, we tend to compare. But comparison is a foolish attitude because we are all unique, and we all started the journey at different times of our life. The mistake I learned is that What we can do is simply looking at our present self and appreciate where we are now! To be able to focus on growth, we have to appreciate where we are now. If you read the book "mindset" by Carol Dweck. it is the concept of a growth mindset. It's easier to tune out the negative self talk when we are present with ourselves, so what we see is our reality and the goal we are heading towards. This is my core principle when I consume contents on my friend's newsfeed: Always feel happy for other's accomplishments, but don't attach your feelings of inadequacies to their success because it is their life, not yours.
A great quote by Eleanor Roosevelt for you to take away in this episode:
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
A quick announcement in the beginning of the show explaining why we have changed the podcast name. There was a duplicated name on iTunes, and we decided the change is better early than later. So, if you just subscribe and join us, welcome to the Thrive x Strive family, where we learn and grow together!
Hope you enjoy the show! See you next week!
